Stop Impressing and Be Who You Are

Fooling people into believing you are more than you are is not nearly as impressive as not telling how much you are.

It’s amazing how intuitive people are.

Regardless of what you tell people about yourself, in a half hour conversation, they will have a real good measure of who you are. If you are not what you say, you will trip yourself up along the way.

I know, I’ve tried.

But yet, telling people what you like and avoiding a lot of what you don’t like, is very stimulating.

Telling what you can do and cannot do is refreshing.

Limiting your talents to the truth and drawing the line on what is above your head gives you credibility.

Not making over statements in a half hour conversation creates a feeling that you are what you say and probably leave a lot unsaid. This creates a little mystery that would be fun to explore for most people. It also develops trust.

A person can trust that you do not have an agenda.

The most impressive thing you can do is listen without interrupting,  say that you like their ideas, if you do, enjoy what they tell you about themselves and share something about yourself along the same lines.

It took you years to be you and it would take years to peel your onion. It is more fun to peel someone open than have them spill on you.  Romantic or even business intensity is built in small exciting steps.

Understatement is an amazingly attractive quality. It is rarely seen these days except in people who value their worth.

Even in getting a job or making a presentation, people’s antennae are extremely well tuned to over statement.

Let someone find out about who you are and they can make their own judgments. If you are working everyday to be more who you are and less on who you are not, it is very calming.

Know where you draw your own lines and the minimum standards you have for everything.  Things and people will choose in or choose out.  If you are inspired, you will choose things that are expressions of who you are and people who will let you be.

Always be kind and respectful and let people be who they are. Doesn’t mean you have to like them.

A person who is always themselves and doesn’t speak unkindly of others is a real treasure.

We look for people like this in our daily lives.