How to Over Come Slow Progress
ByResistance and gravity seem to be natural laws in spirituality, business, and life.
Making things more aerodynamic is a technology present in commerce and sports.
“Over coming” and “trying harder” are two phrases we hear often in our motivation to succeed.
When things don’t go as planned, resistance is winning. We have all experienced times when everything works as planned and get frustrated when our efforts seem to have no results or even worse, negative results.
I have faced many obstacles in my years and learned three lessons. First, I exert my best efforts and talents to achieve an objective. If find that I cannot reach that objective, then I create a new strategy.
Secondly, the objective is usually part of a larger goal. If my goal is to make $100,000 this year, for example, it is part of a larger goal of taking care of my family, creating savings, collecting a deposit for a purchase of a house, or creating financial independence.
So if I don’t make the $100,000, then I have to reach my goals with a different strategy.
Thirdly, don’t ever quit. I listened to a great discussion with Donald Trump and students at a university with him on stage and them firing him questions for an hour. When asked at the end, what is one thing he would tell everyone, he said “Don’t ever quit.”
We often hit flat spots where we start to question the value, the likelihood, the feasibility of continuing our efforts. It is important to understand the relevance of our near term objective to how we want to live. Is this particular endeavor something we want to do for the rest of our lives or does it express who we are?
I have realized in my latest avocation at the end of my real estate days, that writing is one of three of four things that I want in my life. Therefore, I write every day. My style and the ease of it have morphed over time, but I never get tired of it.
I have realized that since I moved to the beach fitness and especially surfing are two things I wanted in my life. Surfing can be frustrating and it is easier to learn when you are 15 years old, but nonetheless, I want it in my life. Therefore I surf every day.
Two things happen when you commit to an activity or objective and practice every day. You become used to the activity and develop some reasonable competence. It gets to the point that you don’t have to concentrate on the mechanics. You just do it.
As you engage in a distraction free environment you experience the activity and everything else in the world seems to be a noise that is far away. Soon you are fully engrossed and time loses meaning. You are not worried about judgment and you are not doing it for a material reward. You are just doing it because you enjoy what is happening.
This is flow or being in the zone. Your brain is producing endorphins and dopamine and these are the chemicals associated with happiness. Selig Martin, a known psychologist, says happiness is a process.
So if you are frustrated with your progress you have to ask yourself whether the activity really has meaning for you. Are you engaged because there is a motivation such as a pay check or are you engaging because you are inspired?
It is difficult to pursue something that is not you. It is difficult to get into flow in an activity that does not have meaning for you. Since flow is where the happiness is, you need to consider the value of your endeavor.
If the objective is not you, then you should consider it a short term objective and transition to something that allows you to express who you are.
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