Sabotage

A well known famous blogger, Seth Godin, had an article today about how we fail because we sabotage ourselves by failing to make an effort.

It is a corollary to the point of view I have been making about failure is a term we give to  a time frame. That doesn’t make it an absolute. First look at Seth’s points:

“Or consider the way we resist opportunities to lead, to connect, to do work that matters. We don’t resist because we’re not capable of it… we resist because if our marketing fails, if we don’t get the job or earn the trust, then we’re off the hook. No promises made, which means no promises to keep.

We know more than enough about marketing now. We know how to craft a story that will spread, we know how to find and lead tribes. The thing we have trouble with is making the commitment to do it even when it’s frightening and difficult.”

Then look at some points on failure:

Doug Yeamen, a personal development guru, said you can tell if it was a commitment by the result.

Tony Robbins, well know personal development counselor, says success is having the hunger and the right strategy.

Both imply that there is a door in every wall. If at first you don’t succeed this is not failure. Select another strategy. Only a time frame makes it a failure and if you create long term objectives, there  never  has to be  failure.

In the short term you are not meeting your objective. This means you did not have enough time or you did not have the right strategy. If you quit, it was not a real goal.

Did the U.S. think that getting to the moon was impossible or just a goal that needed an adequate amount of time and determination? Failing to get a rocket launched in the short term was not a failure.

If your goal is to lose 10 pounds, when is it a failure? It is only a failure in the short term.

I hit a weight I did not like years ago in spite of hours a week of exercise. I realized that more exercise was not the solution. It required a change in diet. Most people do not like to change their calorie consumption. It can rarely be done quickly and successfully. Now after four years I am down 30 pounds.

I needed a new strategy.

It’s how you look at your real goals that matter. I was in the real estate industry during the melt down working on high rise condos. That industry totally disappeared. Just like the jobs for many of the 6 million formerly employed. They are not failures at their jobs, they have had a short term set back on having a career that sustained them.

The long term goal is being self sustaining. So now that means being retrained. There is rarely failure of achieving the goal if you look at the real goal correctly. Someone may pine at their failure to find true love. Once again, if that is a goal and a commitment, you have to examine your strategy. You have until you die to find your true love.

Generally you can only work on a certain amount of goals.

Your biggest goals are first. For each of those you have a strategy.

Maximizing my health is one of my goals. It has several strategies. They include continuously eating healthier foods and eating fewer harmful foods. It includes consistent exercise trying to build capability and introducing diversity. It includes practices that improve my brain which is a very important goal of health.

I have another goal of increasing my website and internet capabilities. It includes daily work on blogging, developing better sites, increasing page ranking expertise, and determining what interests followers.

Goals do not have to be reached in a day, month, or even a year. My goals are life time goals. Along the way there are set backs, but never a reason to give up. In every wall there is a door.

I have had smaller goals like snow boarding and now surfing that test my mettle. Many of my friends gave up snow boarding after violent encounters with the ground, but I knew those could be over come. Re learning surfing is not easy, but there is a light at the end of every tunnel.

Nothing worth having in your life is worth the thought of quitting. I can cut through the largest boulder with a hammer and chisel if I have enough time. If you want to quit something, it should be that eliminating it allows you to find a better path to your main goal.

What if humans had a personal bar code that could be read by other humans? You could turn them off when in public but it was protocol to turn them on when you were one on one.

It would be scanned immediately when you met someone new. They could tell what kind of person you were. By indicating your habits, your health, your physical conditioning, your intelligence, your occupation, your interests, your political party, your financial condition as A,B, or C, your criminal record, your birth sign, your birth place and of course your blood type.

You wouldn’t need E Harmony. You could tell in a second whether you wanted to spend more time with this person. It wouldn’t be all bad unless you were all bad. But, then you would have to find someone just like you.

Once you had all the information that would normally take you months of courting to discover about someone you could get into the more important stuff. What do you believe, what are you passionate about, what are your goals, what are you doing to improve yourself?

It would eliminate the need for pretense. It would eliminate the need to lie. Everyone could be humble about them selves and spend their time exploring souls instead of creating illusions.

You would be stripped naked of sorts but it might be refreshing. Maybe from the start people would start working on the things that were important for their bar code like character.

What would be even more interesting is if it would tell your relationship with the truth. Do you tell the truth all the time, sometimes, rarely, or never? Under what circumstances do you not tell the truth?

What is your commitment level? Do you always see things through that you start or do you always quit, sometimes quit, rarely quit, or never quit?

How passionate are you about serving others in your work or career? Could care less, sort of care, very concerned about service, or passionate about excellent service?

How much do you care about other people? Not at all, somewhat concerned, very concerned, or highest level of caring?

And so on. How would this make interviewing for a job if both parties could read each other? How would this make voting for a politician if you had the truth? How well could you match to a mate? How well could parents and children understand each other?

Yes, it seems like you would be stripped naked, but you would also be liberated and given the opportunity to make deep meaningful connections.

Fooling people into believing you are more than you are is not nearly as impressive as not telling how much you are.

It’s amazing how intuitive people are.

Regardless of what you tell people about yourself, in a half hour conversation, they will have a real good measure of who you are. If you are not what you say, you will trip yourself up along the way.

I know, I’ve tried.

But yet, telling people what you like and avoiding a lot of what you don’t like, is very stimulating.

Telling what you can do and cannot do is refreshing.

Limiting your talents to the truth and drawing the line on what is above your head gives you credibility.

Not making over statements in a half hour conversation creates a feeling that you are what you say and probably leave a lot unsaid. This creates a little mystery that would be fun to explore for most people. It also develops trust.

A person can trust that you do not have an agenda.

The most impressive thing you can do is listen without interrupting,  say that you like their ideas, if you do, enjoy what they tell you about themselves and share something about yourself along the same lines.

It took you years to be you and it would take years to peel your onion. It is more fun to peel someone open than have them spill on you.  Romantic or even business intensity is built in small exciting steps.

Understatement is an amazingly attractive quality. It is rarely seen these days except in people who value their worth.

Even in getting a job or making a presentation, people’s antennae are extremely well tuned to over statement.

Let someone find out about who you are and they can make their own judgments. If you are working everyday to be more who you are and less on who you are not, it is very calming.

Know where you draw your own lines and the minimum standards you have for everything.  Things and people will choose in or choose out.  If you are inspired, you will choose things that are expressions of who you are and people who will let you be.

Always be kind and respectful and let people be who they are. Doesn’t mean you have to like them.

A person who is always themselves and doesn’t speak unkindly of others is a real treasure.

We look for people like this in our daily lives.

No one likes a saboteur.

Following health, diet, exercise, and super foods, I read a lot of articles and see a lot of postings on the internet.

The one I will give you a link to is worth considering. I have always been a gym rat or at least exercise junkie and once out of college paid attention to my diet. And after I finished my spurt of running 60 miles a week, I had to watch my weight.

Like everyone, I found those 10 pounds are elusive. What if you were told that 10 out of 12 pesticides contain obesogens which are endoctrine hijacking chemicals that take weight regulation into their own hands.

“Obesogens are thought to act by hijacking the regulatory systems that control body weight,” says Frederick vom Saal, Ph.D., curators’ professor of biological sciences at the University of Missouri. That’s why endocrine disruptors are so good at making us fat — and that’s why diet advice doesn’t always work — because even strictly following the smartest traditional advice won’t lower your obesogen exposure.

EDC’s are endocrine-disrupting chemicals.

The foods you eat that contain pesticides could be sabotaging your great efforts to drop a few pounds.

So, I’m no specialist but you have been warned and if you would like to see more visit http://yhoo.it/bZoRyJ . An article by http://wowOwow.com

As a possible tip, an oncologist from Cedar’s Sinai hospital told me pesticides are also responsible for cancers and he soaks his produce in a half a cup of salt in a sink of water for 20 minutes. This neutralizes the pesticides, he says. I have been doing it ever since. I also noticed that I would sometimes get dysentery from fresh produce I was purchasing and after the salt soaking, this stopped.

I mentioned in the last post that eating Super Foods is a great way to start feeling better.

There are foods to help you live longer because they have anti-oxidants but you don’t feel an immediate buzz, which most converts are going to want.

One of the great ways to feel lighter in body and mind is not eat cooked food for a few days. It doesn’t have to be permanent, but it gives your body a break as it cleanses and delivers more energy from not spending as much time and energy digesting. Digesting can consume 65% of your energy.

One of the best ways to start feeling an impact is to substitute a smoothie for a meal. The retail smoothie shops throw in yogurt or ice cream which is a lot of sugar. Try to avoid unnatural sugars because they create a crash.

If you want to continue after the smoothie meal with more snacks, your body will have a craving for protein. Try peanuts, peanut butter, cheese, tuna, and any other desirable foods you may find by Googling  protein. If you work in an office, some things are inconvenient.

If you would like some great reading on enhancing the brain,  read Patt Lind-Kyle “Heal Your Mind Rewire Your Brain”. It not only has brain enhancing food and supplements, it clarifies how your three brains lizard, limpic, and cortex work to influence your behavior and performance.

If you want to read the best book I have ever seen on Super Foods read Jonny Bowden’s PHD. “The 150 Healthiest Foods on Earth”. There is plenty of food selection here and I started by picking about 8 items and adding them to my diet. Of course, when you put some things in, you take some things out.

It also builds a momentum. It is human nature that after you start you want to improve.

I will soon talk about Cacao, Chlorella,  Maca, Chia Seeds, Hemp, eggs, broccoli, and avocado to name a few. These power foods not only have tremendous anti-oxidant powers (which reduce inflammation in our body and cure a host of ills and improve performance, energy and vitality) but are high percentage protein and omegas 3 & 6. Protein and omegas are super brain foods.

If you want to jump ahead and get a source for fun and healthy foods look at http://Nutsonline.com

If you want to see their chart on which foods have which vitamins look at http://www.nutsonline.com/health_nuts.html

If you think you can’t have fun eating healthy, you should view Nuts on Line’s new 348 healthy foods and snacks. You’ll be drooling. http://www.nutsonline.com/tag/new+products (I have no commercial relationship with NutsOnLine, but will suggest a number of sites where you can find fun healthy food.)

If you want to get an advanced look at Super Foods and Supplements at Raw Food World you will find that it can be more fun than you would think. If you substituted two table spoons of hemp powder for a hamburger it would be like trading in a VW for a Ferrari.

Raw Foods

at Raw Food World.  I do have a commercial connection to Raw Food World but it will be only one of several sites I recommend and use.

See the whole series as they continue on this site    Health Series

Fourth of July celebrates our declaration of independence from Great Britain.

In this day and age most of us don’t care about the origin but we love to celebrate.

Independence has always been one of our favorite celebrations. Graduating from school was certainly a day of independence. It meant moving on to a new life and establishment of a career to gain our fame and fortune.

Moving out of our parent’s house was certainly a celebration of independence. They celebrated more than we did.

Changing jobs for a new opportunity or starting our own business is big on the independence list.

Getting our business into the black or having less debt than income is certainly an independence milestone.

Then there are the spiritual milestones.  How about feeling connected to the life forces that are independent of work forces? How about the feeling that we are part of a universal pie that is so beyond the daily routine and worries?

How about going outside and looking at something natural and knowing we are more apart of that than we are a part of what we do for a living?

We are put on earth to enjoy who we are and all of our sensory capabilities. We have a great capacity to enjoy and bring joy to others. We are so much more than governmental, political, or even job history.  We are one of God’s or whoever you believe in finest works. That’s real independence.

To a certain extent we know that feeling good is up to us.

We ponder that choice every day with what we eat and whether we exercise.

We usually are satisfied with eating what we like and taking a few supplements and then exercising within what ever program we have accepted. As long as coffee can wake us up and alcohol can slow us down, it can’t be too bad.

There are more levels of feeling good. If you make the decision, you can approach them gradually. You can select foods for their vitality enhancing qualities and add exercise for the same purpose. You should always take it gradually; even if it takes three or four years.

Any giant program you jump into for a week may not last unless its to quit smoking or something else as major.

There are lots of guides to diet and exercise. Exercise is easiest. Start exercising longer. Add some intensity as often as possible. Try and get the whole body involved. If nothing else, walk twice a day. The effort to improve will improve your self esteem immediately.

With diet, you know what you shouldn’t eat. The highest goal is probably Vegan. There are also some incredible Super Foods that can achieve almost everything we want. A good core plan would be to start adding Super Foods and not let the rest of the diet destroy their affect. You can Google them.

There are several choices with food. Do you want to avoid cancer and disease, improve your brain function, increase energy, lose fat, live longer? Strangely enough, your  body wants all these goals and rewards you for every positive choice you make.

Its your choice. You can feel bad, good, and unbelievable.